I'm a firm believer in being independent. I believe in being self sufficient and not to depend on anyone but yourself to be happy. To me, family and friends are very important. And that is why I get upset when friends who are attached, be it in the bf-gf stage, or engaged, or married, cannot seem to tear themselves away from their other halves to meet up. It's either that, or they meet up by bringing along their other halves. Planning to meet up with them is like an arduous task as weekends are always with their partners so you get slotted a pathetic weekday slot, if we do meet up, for such a short period of time. And even if you get to spend some time with them, their other halves are perpetually calling or smsing them and asking of their whereabouts. Or they have to stop the meeting halfway cos their partners are waiting for them someplace else. It pisses the hell out of me. And that is why I am always a bitch to partners who tag along when we are meeting up. They always think I'm agressive and bitchy but I don't care. I mean, hello??!! You meet your gf almost every god-damn day! Can give her some time off to spend some semblance of personal time with her friends? What are you? Clingy? Geez...

I have nothing against them having a partner. I have a partner too. The tendency is for people to want to stick to their partners 24/7, and that pisses me off cos it only shows that you have nothing else going for you aside from your partner. I know the urge is there for you to spend every waking minute with your other half. I have to admit that at times, I want to spend time with my bf only. But honestly, after seeing Dev for 3 days in a row, I kind of need a short break to just be by myself.

I know , then you'll ask, 'So when you get married, how?' I think even with marriage, you still need a life of your own. I try not to get caught up in a cycle whereby you are constantly with your partner whenever you are free. And that is why I try to do my own things; gym, meet up friends at least on one of the weekends every week, go out with my family, do my own things like massages, facials exercising, manicures, pedicures, do my hair, shop on my own, or just stay home and read a book, sleep or watch tv. And even though I love to have company around me, I actually love being on my own and doing my own things too. I think we need to have a sense of appreciation of ourself. People say that 'My partner completes me. He makes me so happy.' I beg to differ. I think you complete yourself and if you have a partner, he simply enriches your experience in this lifetime.

That's why when my friends tell me that they are getting engaged, or married, my heart always sinks. Cos that will usually mean they will have no more time for you as their priorities change, their responsibilites change and as you are just the friend, you get sidelined always. It makes me really sad cos most of the time, the friendship has been around longer than their relationships.

I miss the times when you can just make plans with your gfs and go out shopping and have coffee and movies on a weekend, or any other time for that matter, without them worrying about their partners being alone.

Dev asked me why I haven't been meeting up with my friends (aside from the usual suspects aka Wendy and Vidhu) and I told him, 'I make such a hell of an effort to meet them all up, I ask them out, but they always say no to me.' All my friends know that I have no qualms about spending time with them, even if it means my bf is left alone. And he understands that we need some alone time too.

And the one thing that irks me most if when they come running to you when they have a crisis with their partners. What are we? Spare tyres? It irritates the hell of me cos when they are happy, we are forgotten, and when they are not, their friends are the ones they turn to.

So girls, we need more backbones. Remember that you complete yourself and appreciate that.